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Being in a wheelchair

Having wheels doesn’t and shouldn’t define who you are. It really gets on my nerves when people try to make a joke about people with disabilities. I mean sometimes it can be funny but there is a point where it can get insulting too. Know your limits people.

For example:
“Oh, I got a date tonight.”
“With who? Stephen Hawking?”

I’m sorry but was that meant to be funny? Another one that we often get is “Oh, is your boyfriend/girlfriend in a wheelchair as well?” Now why on earth do you think that people in wheelchairs can only date each other? Are we not allowed to date an able bodied person? It really grinds my gears (pardon the pun). We are not inbred, we are humans, we have feelings just as much as any other person. It’s almost as if we’re not allowed to speak or interact with anyone that’s not in a wheelchair. Living with a disability is one of the most difficult thing to do. It’s not like a broken bone that will get fixed in a couple of weeks and will be forgotten about. It’s waking up knowing that you will constantly need assistance, going to sleep knowing the next day will be the same. You are dependent on someone 24/7. There are a lot of people who live with disabilities that don’t need assistance and live independently. Those people I salute. However, there are people who need care all the time, they are unable to do anything for themselves.

Over the years, personally, I’ve got used to the staring. I know that people are just curious as to why I have wheels. To be honest, I don’t necessarily stare but I glance at other people in wheelchairs too. I am curious as to why they are in a wheelchair. It’s human nature to be curious when you see something that’s ‘abnormal’. Not that being in a wheelchair should be in this day and age. Another thing that annoys me is when people assume that you were in an accident. “Oh what happened to you?” I just sit and stare at them with a blank face. What? Now I’m not allowed to have had this condition since birth? Is that banned now too? There are a lot of people who are born with disabilities. Not everything is caused by an accident. Mine? Mine was after I was 6 years old. No body actually knows why my bones break. The doctors have diagnosed me with Osteogenesis Imperfecta (Brittle Bones) but they have no clue which stage it is. They did tests on both my parents and they aren’t even carriers that they could have passed the gene down to me. They’ve done multiple tests on me and it always show that my bones are normal. It’s a mystery.

There is nothing wrong with being in a wheelchair but what is wrong is when people look at you and say “can I have a go on there?” Do you want us to stand up and wait for you to have a go on our chairs and return it? What kind of stupidity is this? There are a lot of people who have asked me and since I am able to stand and walk assisted by crutches I let people have a go. That doesn’t mean that it’s okay to ask to have a go on someone’s wheelchair. It’s stupid. That’s like us asking an able bodies person if we can try their legs. Being in a wheelchair wasn’t a choice. We didn’t choose the wheel life, the wheel life chose us. There is never a day where I hate or pity myself for being in a wheelchair. I am in a chair because I was meant to be, it wasn’t like I chose to be.

There are a lot of people out there who are very narrow minded; thinking that when we voice out our opinions regarding what we find offensive or not, we are the boring closed -minded people. Like I mentioned previously, there are jokes and then there is offence. One of my good friends, who is also in a wheelchair, voiced out his opinion on a FaceBook post and got a lot of hate for it. He has every right to have his own opinion. It’s almost as if we can’t even speak out about what we think is offensive or not. We just have to sit silently in the corner and just take everything that is thrown at us. We have mouths, we have voices, we have opinions and by all means are allowed to share them as well. Speaking about sitting silently in the corner, I hate when people assume that we can’t speak. We may be in a wheelchair but that doesn’t mean we don’t understand what you’re saying and respond back. I admit there are disabilities that stop people from speaking but that doesn’t give anyone the right not to talk directly to us. Not everyone we hang out with is our carer. Believe it or not, we actually have friends who are able bodied. We have friends in wheelchairs too. We have friends in all shapes, sizes, genders, races, sexualities. We are not the narrow minded people.

I am not trying to look for sympathy here. What I am looking for is for people to treat us as if the chair were invisible. Treat us like a human.

We didn’t choose the wheel life, the wheel life chose us. 

All the love x

 

 

 

“Haters Back Off.” Netflix Series Review

This is the excerpt for your very first post.

Disclaimer *Contains spoilers*

I decided that it was time I watched ‘Haters Back Off.’ It’s a Netflix original series created by Colleen Ballinger, a lot of you may know her as Miranda Sings, and her brother Chris Ballinger. As for now there is only one season which consists of eight 30 minute long episodes.

Haters Back Off is about Miranda Sings wanting to be a YouTube star. Only, she has no talent and is overconfident. Her uncle tries to help her with her channel, in getting views and fans. She gets hate from the few views and she is very rude. Until, her uncle posts a video of her that she doesn’t want posted. He does it behind her back and when she finds out she see’s the amount of views it receives. This is where the first season ends.

It looks to me like Colleen wanted to show her fans a side to how Miranda became famous. A character whom is now a famous YouTuber, created by Colleen. On the Miranda Sings channel on YouTube the first video is the ‘Free Voice Lesson’ in which Miranda teaches us how to sing.

Before I started watching it I had some expectations. I was expecting it to be funny and entertaining. It turned out to be the exact opposite. What’s odd is that I actually watch Miranda Sings’ videos on YouTube but found this show to be a little, dare I say, boring. There wasn’t anything funny in the show and I kind of thought it was stupid humour half the time and not even the good kind. The storyline itself wasn’t entertaining either. I kind of felt as if the story was going too slow and a lot of the characters irritated me. Now, I know it’s a comedy show but the way the mother pretends to have a condition at the beginning is stupid. There are a lot of people who do have disabilities and can’t do anything about them. The character that plays Miranda’s mother fakes an injury and it’s a little offensive. Another character I find a little creepy is the Uncle. He kind of looks and sounds like a pervert at times, like I said I am aware the show is a comedy, but it feels weird. I’m sure that this show is targeted towards the younger viewers and it’s a little odd but then again, that’s just my opinion. Overall, I was genuinely hoping to laugh out loud but instead I was cringing.

I’m not saying that I hate Miranda or Colleen or anyone. I was just expecting…more I guess. There is a lot that Colleen, as the producer, could have put into the show to make it funnier or more entertaining. Her Miranda videos make me laugh and this seemed to make me want to go into hiding. I may be completely wrong, there may be a lot of you out there that think it’s hilarious. This is just my own honest opinion on the show. The first season ends on a cliffhanger, which made me actually want to know what happens next. I feel that if there is a second season that it may be a little more entertaining. Purely because Miranda’s career will finally kick off. The first season was just about how she would rise to fame and how she could get noticed. Now that her video is up and she’s getting all these views and comments the style of the show and the pace could change.

Hopefully, the second season is more appealing to me and entertaining as well. For now I shall let it be.

Let me know your opinions on the show if you’ve watched it and what other reviews you’d like to read. Whether they’re books, T.V shows, music, movies and I’ll try my best to review it.

All the love x